5 Modules · Self-Paced

The Person Who Made You Disappear.

A written course for the woman whose sense of herself was gradually eroded by a relationship.

Most content about this experience focuses on the other person: on naming and categorising what they did. This course focuses on you. What happened to your sense of self. How the self-doubt was installed. What the automatic checking, the apologising, the second-guessing is actually about. How you find your way back.

5Modules
Self-Paced
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Know specifically how the erosion happened: not in general terms, but in the particular ways it operates and the particular things it takes.Understand the mechanism
Identify which of your self-doubts belong to you and which were created by this specific experience, and why that distinction changes how you work with them.Distinguish installed self-doubt from your own
Begin to trust your experience again — what you see, what you feel, what you know — as a legitimate source of information about reality.Return to your own perception
Women who are in or have left relationships where their sense of themselves was systematically underminedThis may be for you
Anyone experiencing persistent self-doubt, automatic apologising, or difficulty trusting their own perceptionThis may be for you
What this course helps you explore
Women who are in or have left relationships where their sense of themselves was systematically undermined Anyone experiencing persistent self-doubt, automatic apologising, or difficulty trusting their own perception Women who have left the relationship but find the patterns of self-erasure have stayed with them Anyone who wants to understand what happened to their sense of self, before working on rebuilding it Understand the mechanism Distinguish installed self-doubt from your own Return to your own perception Locate what survived
The Premise

The work beneath
The Person Who Made You Disappear.

This course is designed to help you slow the pattern down, understand what is happening underneath it, and begin practising a steadier, kinder way forward. It does not ask you to become someone else. It helps you return to yourself with more clarity, language, and choice.

Most content about this experience focuses on the other person: on naming and categorising what they did. This course focuses on you. What happened to your sense of self. How the self-doubt was installed. What the automatic checking, the apologising, the second-guessing is actually about. How you find your way back.
The Course

5 Modules. Self-paced lessons

Each module is a place to understand one layer more clearly. Move slowly. Let the language meet the part of your life that has needed more care, more honesty, and a more hopeful way forward.

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Module 1
How the Self Erodes

The erosion rarely happens all at once. It happens gradually: through a thousand small corrections, through the constant recalibration of yourself to someone else's version of reality, through learning that your perceptions were consistently wrong. This module maps the mechanism.

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Module 2
The Self-Doubt That Was Installed

The self-doubt you carry after this kind of relationship is not a pre-existing condition. It was created, specifically, by a specific set of experiences. This module distinguishes between the self-doubt you arrived with and the self-doubt that was put there — and why the distinction matters.

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Module 3
What the Checking Is About

The constant self-monitoring, the automatic scanning of others' faces for signs of displeasure, the apology that arrives before you have assessed whether you have done anything wrong. This module addresses where these patterns come from and how they change.

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Module 4
The Return to Your Own Perception

One of the most specific losses in this kind of relationship is trust in your own perception. You learned to override what you saw, felt, and knew. This module is about the process of returning to your own experience as a reliable source of information.

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Module 5
Who You Were Before — and Who You Are Now

You cannot return to who you were before this relationship. That person was also changed by everything that came after. But you can understand what was taken, what survived, and what the experience has, in some ways, given you — including a precision about what you will and will not accept.

Begin when you are ready

The Person Who Made You Disappear.

A written course for the woman whose sense of herself was gradually eroded by a relationship.

Start the Course — Included with Membership

Included with your My Inner Foundation membership.

Common Questions

Frequently asked

Do I have to have been in an harmful relationship to take this course? +

No. The course addresses the quieter, more incremental experience of a relationship that gradually eroded your trust in yourself, not necessarily through obvious abuse. If you recognise yourself in the description (the self-doubt, the automatic apology, the difficulty trusting your perceptions), the course is likely relevant regardless of whether the relationship would be clearly labelled from the outside.

Why does this course focus less on labels? +

Because the most useful work available to you is not about diagnosing the other person. It is about understanding what happened to your sense of self and recovering your trust in your own perceptions. The label describes their pattern; this course addresses the effect on yours. The two questions are related but the second one is where the recovery is.

What if I am still in the relationship? +

This course is designed for the aftermath: for people who have left, or who are at some distance from the relationship, or who are trying to make sense of something that happened in the past. If you are currently in a relationship that is eroding your sense of self, please seek support from a therapist or trusted person who can help you assess your situation.

How is this different from therapy? +

It is not therapy and is not a replacement for it. If you have experienced significant distress in a relationship, distress-informed therapy is the appropriate primary support. This course works alongside therapy and independently for people who are in the self-development and understanding dimension of the recovery rather than in active distress processing.

My experience was not dramatic. Does this still apply? +

Yes. In fact, the course is specifically written for the non-dramatic version. The incremental, hard-to-name process through which trust in yourself is quietly eroded over time is precisely what this course addresses. The fact that no single incident seems large enough to justify how you feel is part of the experience this course speaks to.

My Inner Foundation
Olivia Fox

A course by Olivia Fox, founder of My Inner Foundation. She writes about what she has lived, worked through herself, and sat with in others — translating real inner work and years of supporting people through these exact struggles into language that is precise, honest, and genuinely useful.

Written with care

A gentle note before you begin

My Inner Foundation courses are educational and reflective. They are not therapy, diagnosis, medical advice, or crisis support. If you are in immediate danger or need urgent mental-health support, please contact local emergency services or a qualified professional.

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